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DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband wishes we had got a dog instead of having a baby. I’m gutted.

I’m totally in love with our six-month-old daughter but he told me he doesn’t like being a dad, and misses our old, care-free life.

We have been married for three years. I’m 36 and he’s 35.

While I was desperate to have a child, he had mixed feelings about it.

I pushed him into starting a family and hoped he’d change his mind once our daughter was born.

Unfortunately, he hasn’t bonded with her. He has admitted he’s selfish and lazy – and only now do I see how true that is.

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We’re arguing a lot and he’s moved into the spare room, for a proper night’s sleep. But he’s miserable and it’s affecting our relationship.

I know he loves our daughter but he also resents her.

The dog comment was the last straw. I don’t want to bring her up in a broken home but we can’t carry on like this.

DEIDRE SAYS: Having a new baby is a stressful time and puts relationships under pressure, even when both partners are happy to be parents.

Your husband probably feels left out and anxious about the future.

Tell him how worried you are. Ask to work this out together, otherwise you face losing each other and your family.

My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, will help. And contact Family Lives (, 0808 800 2222).


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